A friend asked me about what an apology – forgiving (both have same meaning in Indonesian, I wasn’t sure which one she was referring to)
Then, I came to realize I don’t really know how it feels “to forgive” someone
As I discuss it with my S.O. and have internal dialogue with myself… I found a clue:
“I know for sure that when I forgive someone means that I no longer feeling anger towards that person…and consequently the pain too…?”
I am not sure yet about the pain. But, the anger is certainly gone
So, forgiving means to let go the anger?
Is that all….? Is it that simple? Like, really…?
But then, how is it related to the other person? Why do we have to ask a person to not angry to us while it’s fully their right and natural response to process? 🤔
Why do we have to apologize? What is it mean? For what purpose? For whom?
Can we let go the anger yet still not “forgiving” that person? I mean by forgiving here is more like feel completely good about that person and engage like usual?
What happen if we don’t forgive someone? We tend to avoid the person? And that person has limited access to us?
Why is it important for the person or ourselves to forgive that person?
So that person can interact and “access” us the way he/she used to be? To free that person fron guilts?
So that we can free ourselves from anger?